I know I’m guilty of it too, I spend the majority of my days working, taking care of a home, children, everyone’s needs seem to come first. But what about me? When do I get to do something for myself? The fact of the matter is, just because you work, have a family and house to tend to, doesn’t mean that your wants and needs have to suffer. It’s time to give yourself some attention and I’ve got just the formula for you to make it happen.
- Become a non-negotiator. Commit to yourself that this level of investment in yourself is a priority and as such, deserves to be put on your hierarchy of needs. Spending time and money on yourself is an act of self-love. So many women feel like once they become a wife and mother that their own happiness or needs need to be sacrificed for the family. But I want to pose this question to you. If you give every part of yourself to others, how do you fill yourself back up? Investing gives you the opportunity to pour into yourself so that you have more to give and offer others. If you’re finding yourself stressed out, tired, gaining weight, having a short fuse, it’s usually an indication that you need some self-love. There’s nothing to feel guilty about here either, lady, the demands that are placed on us as women can get pretty overwhelming at times. Give yourself a time-out every now and then, you are just as important as everyone else.
2. I’m focused, man! Once you’ve made the commitment to yourself, decide on what you’re going to invest in. You might choose to take up a new hobby, become more intentional about your professional development, or make a decision to step out of your comfort zone and try something new every now and then. Struggling to find something? Go back to your childhood and try and remember what you loved doing. Maybe you spent hours drawing and painting with watercolors. This could be your calling to enroll yourself in a painting class in your area. Or maybe you’ve been putting off learning Spanish. Sign up for that class, pronto!
A note on what to consider when focusing on yourself: make sure that your choices are something that makes your both scared and excited at the same time. I know it may sound strange, but those are the perfect activities to empower you and add another dimension to your already awesome life.
- Get your money right. Just like any other investment, you need to plan and create a budget. That’s right, add it to the budget, it deserves a place too. My husband and I each keep a small percentage of money that is just ours to do whatever we want with. Here’s another tip: I keep my own ‘personal development’ money as cash in an envelope. This keeps me disciplined because when that envelope is empty, I know I can spend no more.
- Schedule it. If it’s not scheduled, it’s likely not going to happen. So I would suggest making plans for your investment. If it’s a class or event, there’s usually a date attached so that should be easy to get on your calendar. Make sure to communicate your intentions to the important people in your life so they can plan accordingly. I give my husband a few weeks of notice before I have something planned. This way he can adjust his schedule if needed.
Making yourself a priority can be hard for women. We put it all on the table and go all in for our husbands and children, but when was the last time you bet on yourself? The stakes aren’t as high as you think, and the payout is priceless. So I have a question for you, are you ready to make a long-term investment in yourself? Comment below with your declaration of commitment.
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